Wow, what a crazy week it’s been. With the weather going nuts ranging from high 30’s on Friday to 9 degrees (brrrr… ) as we were driving to Ballarat on Sunday it’s a bit hard to know what to expect next. And poor NSW experiencing floods one minute and devastating bushfires the next.
This past week we were also in the midst of Full Moon energy. I see that this week we had a lunar eclipse and Jupiter has gone into retrograde. I’m not an expert in Astrology but apparently, this is a good time to review our visions, ideals and belief systems.
So being Valentines’ Day today maybe it’s a good time to review your vision and beliefs about love.
Maybe you’re in an amazing, romantic relationship or maybe you’re among the zillions of people who think Valentines Day sucks.
Does all the hype about flowers, romantic dinners and double massages (which we do at Simply Natural Therapies by the way) leave you cold? Have you been looking fruitlessly for the perfect partner who will make you feel loved and cherished? Or maybe you’ve given up altogether.
I’ve worked with lots of clients over the years who had become increasingly anxious that they would never find the right partner. They had started to wonder what was wrong with them and became concerned that their biological clock was ticking and time was running out. This anxiety, of course, creates a vicious cycle and makes it even harder to relax and enjoy getting to know a new partner.
Now whether you have loved and lost or never loved at all, today I want to talk to you about the secret to true everlasting love. As I drive to work every day I see a sign that says, “Everything you need is already within you.” I know it sounds very cliché but it’s oh so true.
Loving yourself unconditionally is simply the first step to attracting the right partner. I often say that your partner will be a reflection of your self-esteem. If you want an awesome partner you need to start with your own self-worth.
If you don’t like yourself then if someone comes along and likes you, you’ll think they’re crazy. You’ll reject them. If you pretend to be something you’re not so that you will be likable then that won’t work either. You’ll be scared that if they ever discover the “real” you they won’t like you and you’ll be dumped. You’re caught between a rock and a hard place. You’ll never be comfortable with someone liking you.
So what’s the solution? I love the story of a young man who asks his mum, “How to find the right woman?” and the mother tells him, “Be the right man.” So what does it mean to “Be the right man” (or the right woman)?
What does it take to feel right within yourself? To like yourself? To make peace with your faults and accept yourself anyway? What do you need to do to feel worthy of love? Well, the interesting thing is that feeling worthy is just a belief. And NOW is a great time to change your beliefs about yourself.
One of the most powerful techniques I know to do this is to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are OK. Make it your responsibility to convince that person in the mirror that they are a valuable human being. That they deserved to be cherished and respected. That they deserve love.
You’ve heard it said that the eyes are the window to the soul. When you stand in front of a mirror and actually looked into your own eyes something very powerful happens. And when you start to say kind things to yourself something else happens that may surprise you.
That person in the mirror may reject what you say. She may look away. She may feel unworthy and feel very uncomfortable accepting your compliments. Maybe she doesn’t know how to accept compliments because she’s had very few in her life.
If that’s the case I suggest you make it your responsibility to retrain her. Practice for just 2 minutes a day and make sure you smile at her as you do it. Although this mirror work as Louise Hay call is can be excruciatingly uncomfortable to begin with I guarantee it won’t be long before to make friends with that person in the mirror. Keep going and I also guarantee that the two of you will fall in love.
Once that happens you’re infinitely more likely to attract the right partner. But of course that’s not such a big deal anymore because you’re happy with your own company.
If you’d like help to build your self-esteem then you might like to use this gorgeous guided hypnotic meditation I created a while ago. You can download it for free HERE. (I’m new to this technology so please email me if the link doesn’t work)
That’s all for now. You can CLICK HERE to find out about our upcoming classes and workshops .
Have an awesome week.
Health and Happiness Guru
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Alison Burton is one of Melbourne’s leading Hypnotherapists and owner of Simply Natural Therapies. Alison is a sought after public speaker and has appeared on ABC National Radio, SBS Radio and is a regular guest on 3WBC Radio. She has also featured in The Age, Herald Sun, Insight Magazine and local news media. Alison has a keen interest in all aspects of natural health and wellbeing, energy medicine, human consciousness and bringing more common sense and kindness to the planet.
Alison’s interest in energy healing is often incorporated in her work through the use of Reiki, Kinergetics and acupressure techniques including Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
She has three adult children and 2 adorable grandchildren.
Alison lives Melbourne’s Eastern suburbs and runs a Natural Health Centre with 15 practitioners, an extensive range of classes including HypnoBirthing, and a retail shop.
Alison offers a FREE 60 Minute Health and Wellbeing Consultation to clarify your needs and design a strategy to help you achieve your health and well-being goals
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